When someone you love is struggling with depression, it can be heartbreaking to watch them suffer. You may feel helpless, unsure of what to say, or afraid of making things worse. But your support can make a profound difference. Knowing how to recognize the signs of depression and how to be there for your loved one can help them feel less alone and more hopeful.
Depression isn’t always obvious. Some people hide their struggles well, while others may not even realize they are depressed. Here are some common signs to look for:
- Persistent sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness
- Loss of interest in activities they once enjoyed
- Fatigue or lack of energy
- Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
- Changes in sleep patterns such as sleeping too much or too little
- Changes in appetite and weight
- Irritability or increased sensitivity
- Feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt
- Withdrawal from friends and family
- Expressing thoughts of self-harm or suicide
If you notice these signs in someone you love, don’t ignore them. Depression is more than just a bad mood—it’s a serious condition that can impact every aspect of a person’s life.
What to Do If You Notice These Signs
If you suspect that someone you care about is struggling with depression, the first step is to reach out. They may not feel comfortable bringing it up themselves, so your willingness to check in can be a lifeline.
Start the Conversation With Care
It can be difficult to bring up the topic of depression, but showing that you care can make all the difference. Instead of saying, “You seem depressed,” try something more open-ended like:
- “I’ve noticed that you haven’t seemed like yourself lately. Is everything okay?”
- “I care about you, and I want to support you. How are you feeling?”
- “I know you have been going through a lot lately. I’m here if you want to talk.”
Give them space to share their feelings without pressure. Avoid minimizing their emotions or trying to fix things right away.
Listen Without Judgment
If they open up, focus on listening. You don’t need to have all the answers—just being there is enough. Validate their feelings by saying things like:
- “That sounds really hard. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way.”
- “You’re not alone in this. I’m here for you.”
- “I may not understand exactly what you’re going through, but I want to support you.”
Avoid saying things like “Just snap out of it.” Depression isn’t something a person can simply take away.
Encourage Them To Seek Help
While your support is important, professional help is often necessary for managing depression. Encourage them to speak with a therapist, counselor, or doctor. You might say:
- “You don’t have to go through this alone. Have you thought about talking to a professional?”
- “Therapy has helped so many people—maybe it could help you too.”
- “I can help you find a therapist or go with you to an appointment if that would make it easier.”
If they resist seeking help, don’t push too hard, but keep the conversation open. Let them know you’ll support them whenever they’re ready.
How To Help Someone With Depression
Once you’ve had the conversation, your loved one still needs ongoing support. Here are some ways you can help:
- Be present. Sometimes, just being there is enough. Spend time with them, even if it’s just sitting in silence or watching a movie together. Your presence can be comforting and remind them that they are not alone.
- Offer help with daily tasks. Depression can make even basic daily activities feel overwhelming. Offer to help with small tasks like cooking a meal, bringing them food, or giving them a ride to an appointment.
- Encourage healthy habits. Depression often affects sleep, diet, and activity levels. Gently encourage healthy habits without being forceful. Invite them for a short walk or to get fresh air or suggest cooking a healthy meal together.
- Check in regularly. Depression doesn’t go away overnight. Continue to check in with them, even if they seem a little better. A simple “How are you doing today?” can remind them that they are not forgotten.
- Be patient and show compassion. Recovery from depression takes time. There may be good days and bad days. Be patient and remind them that healing is possible. Let them know they are valued and loved.
What To Do If They Talk About Suicide
If your loved one expresses thoughts of self-harm or suicide, take it seriously. Stay calm and let them know you are there for them. Encourage them to reach out for professional help immediately. If you believe they are in immediate danger, don’t leave them alone—contact emergency services or a crisis hotline for guidance.
You can call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, which provides 24/7, confidential support.
Your Support Matters
Loving someone with depression can be challenging, but your support can be life-changing for them. At Peak Behavioral Health in Santa Teresa, NM, we have services that can help improve your loved one’s mental health. Contact us today to learn more.
